My Own Experiences

Skipping past the rest of that birth story, I went in to my second pregnancy with a totally different mind-set. I hadn’t overcome my previous birth story and I had so many questions as to why things happened the way that they did. I knew what I wanted to do differently this time so I educated myself by doing a hypnobirthing course and by listening to a lot of positive birth meditation tracks. This was amazing! It educated me on labour and birthing options, calming and breathing techniques, birthing positions and mainly that I had choices and had the right to question things and say NO. Let’s just say that this birth was 10 times better than my first, and I believe that was result of being more educated.

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​I suffered severely with PPD after the arrival of my second child. I had two tiny humans who were 14 months apart, I had very limited immediate family to support me and to be vulnerable around, as they say, "it takes a village", and I didn't feel as though I had that. I felt as though I needed to be strong, in control and carry-on, day in, and day out without really focussing on my own well-being and mental health. I wished I had someone who was there for me during my pregnancy, an ear to share my thoughts, ideas and worries without being dismissed or unvalidated. I wished I had someone in the birthing suite during my births advocating for me other than my partner who had also put faith in the staff. I wished I had someone to remind me that I am strong, I can do this and to bring me back in to alignment when I’d deviate from my birth plan knowing how important it was to me to achieve, and to remind me that I had rights and could say 'no'. Because let’s be frank, father’s and partners are becoming a new parent too – it would have been nice to have someone there to support us both.

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And that my friend is where I drew the line. I wasn’t going to settle for this again. I knew that next time, it would be my re-write, my rite of passage. I will hire a doula, I will capture this birth, I will birth at home. I had a vision and I manifested it for months before falling pregnant. And once I fell pregnant, it wasn’t as easy as I thought. I still had to fight to system to be “allowed” to birth at home, but in the end, I was able to, and I did it, and my postpartum was great. I felt held, supported, knowledgeable, accountable and strong. And I am now able to let go of the past, move on and heal.

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This is my story and the fire that drives me in wanting to help support you.

My commitment to you is that I will be there to listen, to guide, to help answer questions, support you emotionally and physically, and to ensure you always feel validated. There is no perfect way to birth, nor a right way. I promise not to judge or inflict my personal opinions.

If you would like to know more, please do not hesitate to contact me on any platform.
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